In the final chapter of Jesmyn Ward’s new memoir, Men We Reaped (Bloomsbury), she writes about one of the last times she saw her brother, Joshua, who died in 2000. They drive along the outskirts of DeLisle, Mississippi, where they grew up together, listening to Ghostface Killah’s “All That I Got Is You.”
“This reminds me of us,” Joshua tells her, singing along to the lyrics that celebrate the rapper’s impoverished childhood, the importance of family, his mother’s love. In the song, Ghostface warns his listeners never to forget the past:
Because see, that’s the child I was
What made me the man I am today
See cause if you forget where you come from
You’re never gonna make it where you’re goin,
Because you lost the reality of yourself
So take one stroll through your mind
And see what you will find
And you’ll see a whole universe all over again.
Thirteen years later, Ward decides it’s time to take that stroll.
Now 36, Ward, who won a National Book Award in 2011 for her novel, Salvage the Bones, returns to the Gulf Coast with a memoir so honest and raw it sometimes takes your breath away.
Steeped in the imagery of battle, Men We Reaped centers around five young men — Ward’s brother, her cousin and three friends — who died within a four-year period, victims of a perfect storm Ward calls, variously, “a plague,” “this epidemic,” and “a great darkness bearing down on our lives that no one acknowledges.”
One kills himself, another is shot. One dies when his car collides with a train, another of a heart attack. Joshua is hit and killed by a drunk driver who never pays a penny of the fine his sentence stipulates, who serves three out of only five years.
To make sense of these tragedies, Ward looks for answers in the history of her town, her community, and her family. Beginning with “the distant past” when her great-grandparents first settled in DeLisle, she alternates between a chronological account of her life and portraits of the five men, starting with the most recent death, in 2004, and working backward to her brother’s. (more…)